My great-grandfather John D Lee was a polygamist. He served under Joseph Smith and Brigham Young. He had nineteen wives and sixty-four children so that he could become a god as God is now. He really believed that God and Jesus are polygamists and that every Mormon man would have to have a lot of wives. Thelma Geer, author Mormonism, Mama and Me
The idea of having more than one wife had become an integral part of the Mormon religion after Joseph Smith found it in 1830, but the Mormon Church officially abandoned the practice of polygamy in 1890, in part, so that Utah could gain statehood.
Still, some of its members continued to practice in secret at the risk of being excommunicated. By 1935, some of the men who’d been expelled from the Mormon Church formed their own breakaway sect, first known as ‘The Work’ and decades later as the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. They viewed plural marriage as a central tenet – and the only way to attain eternal salvation.
Members of the FLDS believe they are following the true Mormon religion as it was first envisioned by Joseph Smith. One of its central teachings is the idea of celestial marriage, in which a man must have a minimum of three wives to gain admittance to the highest of the three levels of heaven. That [my] Dad was getting a third wife meant that he had begun to secure a place in the Celestial Kingdom for himself and his family. Elissa Wall, Stolen Innocence pp7-9
Those who take their religion most seriously return to polygamy because it has not been expunged from Mormon scripture. James R Spencer, author Beyond Mormonism
In any event, it is easy to predict that within the FLDS community there would be a lot of pressure on fathers to put their daughters forward to be married as quickly as possible. And Joseph Smith took a 14-year-old wife, didn’t he. So the age of 14 is likely not coincidental.
One of the women interviewed on the Larry King show described her terror when she found out that her father had entered her name in the ‘joy book’. She resorted to various kinds of acting out in an attempt to try to delay the announcement of her marriage. She eventually escaped the FLDS community at age 16. In most cases, only a couple days’ notice was given between the announcement of marriage and the marriage itself.
The key witness at the Jeffs trial described her experience in similar terms. The man she was married was her first cousin. He was 19; she was 14. He had regularly bullied her throughout their lives. She touchingly described the emotional trauma she faced after a lifetime of believing that sex was dirty and then suddenly at age 14 start having sex with someone she not only did not love, but instead feared and detested.
The ‘joy book’? This is straight out of Orwell’s 1984. And, more to the point, straight out of mainstream Mormonism. Remember the ‘Courts of Love’? Bob McCue, board post 24th November 2006, ‘The Joy Book’
It was all so superficial and to me phoney and shallow ... I prostituted myself to get to heaven. Mary Mackert, polygamist wife
I felt like one more mouth to feed. Like a burden on my parents. And it reduces men to just sperm donors. Mary Mackert
While the leaders were encouraged to qualify for their positions by living ‘the law’, many of the most faithful and dedicated lay members of the Church also entered plural marriage of their own free will. They knew the true relationship between the manifesto and the higher law. One example of this was the father of Camilla Eyring Kimball, wife of the current Church President, Spencer W Kimball. On 3 November 1903 (over thirteen years after the manifesto was ‘unanimously’ accepted by the Church) her father, Edward Christian Eyring, took his wife’s younger sister, Emma Romney, as a plural wife. The marriage was performed at Colonia Juarez by the Stake President, Anthony W Ivins, who had been sent to Mexico by President Wilford Woodruff to continue performing plural marriages after the manifesto, even though they knew such marriages were illegal in Mexico. Heber Grant Ivins, Polygamy in Mexico p5
Any biography of Joseph Smith, or a listing of his accomplishments or innovations, no matter how concise, which fails to mention polygamy, is like writing a biography of Richard Nixon without mentioning Watergate. Randy Jordan, board post 4th April 2005
In the case of a man marrying a wife in the everlasting covenant who dies while he continues in the flesh and marries another by the same divine law, each wife will come forth in her order and enter with him into his glory. Charles Penrose, Mormon Doctrine Plain and Simple, or Leaves from the Tree of Life p66
Former Utah senator Jake Garn was reluctant to remarry following the death of his first wife, Hazel, in 1976, but he soon realized that he could not be both a father and a mother to his children. When he began dating Kathleen Brewerton, who would become his second wife, questions soon arose about how his first wife would feel should he become sealed to a second wife. The couple took their questions to President Spencer W Kimball.
He said he did not know exactly how these relationships will be worked out, but he did know that through faithfulness all will be well and we will have much joy, Brother Garn later recalled. Kathleen told him that she was afraid of offending Hazel. President Kimball’s demeanor seemed to change. From being somewhat hesitant in his earlier answers, he now became sure and spoke with firmness. He looked right at Kathleen and with a tear forming in his eye, he said, ‘I do know this: you have nothing to worry about. Not only will she accept you, she will put her arms around you and thank you for raising her children.’ Jake Garn, Why I Believe p13
At age 15, Debbie was ordered to marry leader Ray Blackmore, who was 57. He was married to 5 other women at the time and had 30 children, most of whom were older than his newest wife. Ray Blackmore was also Debbie’s step-grandfather.
Two years later, Ray Blackmore died and his son, Winston Blackmore, became Bountiful’s ruler. He has 30 wives and 80 children. He is the church bishop and superintendent of the (taxpayer-funded) school, runs the businesses, edits the newspaper and controls the reporting of abuse allegations. Winston Blackmore is also Debbie’s step-son. He is described as ‘all but omnipotent’.
During her life in the colony, Debbie was married 3 times and had 8 children. She suffered physical, sexual and emotional abuse. When she saw the same cycle repeating itself in her children's lives, fearing for their safety, Debbie flees Bountiful. In the whole wide world, she knew only one person outside the colony, an aunt who was a mainstream Mormon.
Since leaving Bountiful, Debbie Palmer has become an advocate for the women and children still trapped in the colony. She fights against what she calls ‘illegal cross-border trade in Canadian and American female children for sexual and breeding purposes’. Nightingale, board post 16th November 2002, ‘Leaving Bountiful’
There is more evidence to suggest that Joseph Smith had sex with his wives than there is that he saw God and Jesus in 1820. If Mormons will believe that story with such weak support, why will they not accept such a strong case for Joseph Smith practicing polygamy as the Lord commanded? Deconstructor, board post 25th December 2008, ‘Why I Think Smith Intended to Have Sex With His 14-Year-Old Bride’
Sisters, don’t fall for the worldly urging that women should emulate men in various masculine characteristics. That is not what the Lord created you to do. Please don’t misunderstand me. I am not saying that women should not be doctors or lawyers or any particular occupation that fits their circumstances. To use lawyering as an example, what I am saying is that women should not attempt to be manly lawyers. Nor should women emulate the worldly ways of womanhood. Your destiny is to be a wife and a mother in Zion, not a model and a streetwalker in Babylon. Dallin H Oaks, Brigham Young University 7th November 2006
If you dress immodestly you are magnifying this problem by becoming pornography to some of the men who see you. Dallin H Oaks
How many children should a couple have? All they can care for! Dallin H Oaks
The ultimate act of destruction is to take a life. That is why abortion is such a serious sin. Our attitude toward abortion is not based on revealed knowledge of when mortal life begins for legal purposes. It is fixed by our knowledge that according to an eternal plan all of the spirit children of God must come to this earth for a glorious purpose, and that individual identity began long before conception and will continue for all the eternities to come. Dallin H Oaks, conference report Ensign November 1993
We encourage children to define themselves by their growing testimonies, not their athletic or academic achievements. Dallin H Oaks, conference report April 2008
The whole experience with polygamy was a fertile field for deception. It is not difficult for historians to quote LDS leaders and members in statements justifying, denying, or deploring deception in furtherance of this religious practice. Dallin H Oaks, fireside address BYU 12th September 1993, ‘Gospel Teachings About Lying’
When I was 66, my wife June died of cancer. Two years later – a year and a half ago – I married Kristen McMain, the eternal companion who now stands at my side. Dallin H Oaks, address Brigham Young University 29th January 2002
When we first married, I was working as a consultant for a publishing house based in Boston. I never cooked except once a year. Poor Elder Oaks. The first few months we were married I burned everything, even grilled cheese sandwiches. I knew very little about housework; I didn’t even know how to match socks. Elder Oaks wears only two colors: black and blue. I called my married sister in tears and asked how to sort them and she told me to go stand by the window. Sister Kristen Oaks, Brigham Young University 7th November 2006